Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Come on out and support... Black History Month Event (I'll be there)!

Come on out, Saturday, Feb. 27th for an Annual Black History Month event hosted by The Lounge Society - Zakiyia Forbes!!!!

I will have a vendor table there selling my first book, Struck By Lightning and also my original, hand made 'Happiness' plaques. If you're in the area, please stop in for the event. Details below...

Struck By Lightning and Other Bolts of Reality http://www.cydwebster.com/images/plaques_001.JPG


This year the theme is “Black History is World History” and will take place on Saturday, February 27th. The event will be held downstairs in the Parish Hall of Sacred Heart Church - New Brunswick, NJ (use the Throop Avenue entrance). Door open at 11:00am with a complimentary buffet beginning at 11:30 and the show starting promptly at 12:00. There will be an art exhibition from both local and international artists, in addition to performances from musician, singers and poets. There will also be guest speakers and a brief award ceremony. Vendors will be a new addition this year for those who would like to show support to some of the local entrepreneurs and business. While there is no charge to enter the event or enjoy any of the activities or food (only exception is the vendors of course) TICKETS OR RESERVATIONS ARE REQUIRED. This will ensure that everyone gets a chance to eat at the buffet and be included in the raffle drawings that are taking place throughout the event. There are free raffles for the adults as well as the children.


By moving the event to a larger venue than it was held in the previous year, it has been able to expand the scope of event. The art exhibition will be larger, and a crafting corner for children has also been added. Students from Mason Gross will be participating in the event as well as talent from as close as around the corner and as far as Nigeria.

Are you a workplace pyro?

Are you a workplace pyro?

The manager who makes every little problem a three-alarm fire can burn your business. Is it you?

FORTUNE Small Business Magazine
By Patricia B. Gray, FSB contributor
July 18 2007: 6:45 AM EDT

(FSB Magazine) -- Even now, she winces when she thinks of the way she used to manage her staff. The only woman partner at a small biotech research firm with a roster of blue-chip clients, she found the pressure to perform intense. Her direct reports were young, bright, ambitious, eager to please. But she never trusted them to execute on their own. Every project became a crisis, every meeting a fire drill. She would make assignments at night and on weekends. When she was out visiting clients, she kept the team jumping via e-mails - each one marked URGENT, including the one about the typo in the footnote of a routine report. "I drove everyone crazy, and I didn't even realize it half the time," she says.

Cruella - not her real name - is finally getting help. For six months she has been in family therapy to deal with her overbearing behavior at home and at work. "This is something I am going to work on - seriously," she says.

But it's too late to prevent damage to her small company: In the space of just months, six of her nine staffers quit to escape her reign of terror.

Cruella is what Michael Watkins, founder of management consultancy Genesis Advisers (genesisadvisers.com), calls a "pyromaniac." Pyros are bosses who compulsively light one fire after another in their organizations. These constant emergencies are highly destructive. They waste time and resources while diverting attention from the important issues facing the business. Employees become too busy to do their regular work, and while the pyromaniac boss focuses on the minutiae, the business may miss the chance to head off more dangerous long-term threats.

Does any of this seem familiar? "Entrepreneurs are among the worst pyros," Watkins says. "They're head-strong and impulsive. These qualities may serve them well creating companies but not necessarily running them." Most successful entrepreneurs obsess about details, pursue specific goals, and remain vigilant to competitive threats. But they also think of themselves as visionaries without whom the business wouldn't exist. Those traits feed the pyro habit.

There are legions of pyros out there, says Watkins, whose Newton, Mass., firm teaches leadership, with a special emphasis on business owners. Watkins first put the name "pyromaniac" to this management style in an essay posted on Harvard Business Online in March. The entry quickly generated more than 10,000 responses.

Technology enables modern-day Neros

While the pyromaniac tag may describe an age-old management style (think Nero), it arrives in the lexicon at a time when technology is making pyromania easier and possibly more common. "Technology reduces the barriers that would curb this kind of behavior," says Watkins. "Years ago, a pyro's impulses might have been dampened a bit by the effort to write a memo or pick up the phone. In contrast, think how simple it is to blast off an e-mail to five people, ten people, or even more. E-mail is a one-to-many medium that has the potential to cause a kind of reactive hysteria." Watkins calls e-mail, instant messaging, and Black-Berrys "incendiary devices."

Management gurus say that pyromania is the antithesis of true leadership. "Pyromania is a knee-jerk reaction and, ultimately, a powerfully destructive force," says John Seiffer of Milford, Conn., an executive coach who has counseled more than a few pyros. "Leadership is hard work because it requires thought and discipline and time and patience."

Seiffer had a client, a restaurant owner, who was a classic pyro. He loved being out on the floor chatting with customers and micromanaging the service. But he hated sitting at a desk in the back crunching numbers. As a result, he did not plan correctly for the seasonality of his business and, in a panic, fired employees leaving him short-staffed when the busy season came around again. To wean him off his seat-of-the-pants management style, Seiffer had the owner develop checklists that forced him to focus on long-term business issues. "Pyros fritter away their time on issues that seem urgent but are not important," says Seiffer. "CEOs address issues that are important but may not seem urgent."

The root causes of office arson

What sparks pyromania? For some, it satisfies a deep need to feel powerful and important. Others find that injecting anxiety in subordinates lessens their own. Some pyros are just suspicious that everyone is slacking off behind their backs. Creating a frenzy can be very satisfying for those who don't trust employees to put in an honest day's work.

Some cultures foster pyromania. The biotech executive says she modeled her fire-starting style on that of her first boss. They worked at a major consulting company where every summer brought a new crop of fresh MBAs to break in. "Whipping them into a frenzy of work was our way of hazing," she says. "We were just trying to weed out the ones who couldn't hold up under pressure."

While pyromaniac management may be a dandy way to find the weakest link, it is a terrible way to motivate. It demoralizes and demeans workers. The work routine becomes unpredictable and unsatisfying. Over time, the environment turns toxic. Talented workers depart, leaving a colony of sycophants who enjoy the false urgency of the daily fire drills. "Some companies have a revolving door for COOs, CFOs, and CEOs," Watkins says. "That's often a tip-off that the founder or the president is a pyromaniac."

Break the addiction to creating emergencies

Is there a cure? Watkins says the key is impulse control. Lock up the cell-phone and the other mobile devices after hours. Set a daily limit on e-mails. If that seems too unrealistic, go ahead and write the e-mails, but don't send them immediately. Instead, save them as drafts. Force yourself to wait a couple of hours - not just minutes - then reread and ask yourself if the matter is as urgent as it seemed when you first thought of it. Practice some restraint in your messages. Don't call it urgent unless there's blood. Remember that exclamation points are banned for everyone but prepubescent girls. And don't use BOLDFACE CAPITALS unless there's a bomb in the building.

Kicking the pyro habit is not easy. Recently, when Cruella was out of town for a speech, she decided at the last minute that she really needed new data and called her assistant back at the office. "I had him jumping for 16 hours," she says. "But that doesn't really count as pyromania. I needed more data. Cutting-edge data. After all, we're a data company. He should have known that before I got on the plane."

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Monday, February 15, 2010

What are Heaven and Hell like....

Holy man was having a conversation with the Lord one day and said, 'Lord, I would like to know what Heaven and Hell are like.'


The Lord led the holy man to two doors.



He opened one of the doors and the holy man looked in..



In the middle of the room was a large round table..



In the middle of the table was a large pot of stew,



which smelled delicious and made the holy man's mouth water.



The people sitting around the table were thin and sickly.




They appeared to be famished. They were holding spoons with very long handles that were strapped to their arms and each found it possible to reach into the pot of stew and take a spoonful..



But because the handle was longer than their arms, they could not get the spoons back into their mouths.


The holy man shuddered at the sight of their misery and suffering.




The Lord said, 'You have seen Hell.. They went to the next room and opened the door. It was exactly the same as the first one.




There was the large round table with the large pot of stew which made the holy man's mouth water.



The people were equipped with the same long-handled spoons, but here the people were well nourished and plump, laughing and talking.



The holy man said, 'I don't understand.



'It is simple,' said the Lord. 'It requires but one skill.



You see, they have learned to feed each other.



The greedy think only of themselves.'




When Jesus died on the cross, he was thinking of you...

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Life Without Black People

Life Without Black
People



A very humorous and revealing story is told about a
group of white people who were fed up with African Americans, so they
joined together and wished themselves away. They passed through a
deep dark tunnel and emerged in sort of a twilight zone where there
is an
America without black
people.



At first these white people breathed a sigh of relief.



'At last', they said, 'no more crime, drugs, violence and welfare.'



All of the blacks have gone! Then suddenly, reality set in. The 'NEW
AMERICA'
is
not
America at all - only a barren land.






1. There are very few crops that have flourished
because the nation was built on a slave-supported system.



2. There are no cities with tall skyscrapers because Alexander Mils,
a black man, invented the elevator, and without it, one finds great
difficulty reaching higher floors.



3. There are few if any cars because Richard Spikes, a black man,
invented the automatic gearshift, Joseph Gambol, also black, invented
the Super Charge System for Internal Combustion Engines, and Garrett
A. Morgan, a black man,

invented the traffic signals.



4. Furthermore, one could not use the rapid transit system because
its procurer was the electric trolley, which was invented by another
black man, Albert R. Robinson.



5. Even if there were streets on which cars and a rapid transit
system could operate, they were cluttered with paper because an
African American, Charles Brooks, invented the street sweeper..



6. There were few if any newspapers, magazines and books because John
Love invented the pencil sharpener, William Purveys invented the
fountain pen, and Lee Barrage invented the Type Writing Machine and
W. A. Love invented the

Advanced Printing Press. They were all, you guessed it, Black.



7. Even if Americans could write their letters, articles and books,
they would not have been transported by mail because William Barry
invented the Postmarking and Canceling Machine, William Purveys
invented the Hand Stamp and Philip Downing invented the Letter Drop.



8. The lawns were brown and wilted because Joseph Smith invented the
Lawn Sprinkler and John Burr the Lawn Mower.



9. When they entered their homes, they found them to be poorly
ventilated and poorly heated. You see, Frederick Jones invented the
Air Conditioner and Alice Parker the Heating Furnace. Their homes
were also dim. But of course, Lewis

Lattimer later invented the Electric Lamp, Michael Harvey invented
the lantern, and Granville T. Woods invented the Automatic Cut off
Switch. Their homes were also filthy because Thomas W. Steward
invented the Mop and Lloyd P. Ray the Dust Pan.



10. Their children met them at the door - barefooted, shabby, motley
and unkempt. But what could one expect? Jan E. Matzelinger
invented the Shoe Lasting Machine, Walter Sammons invented the Comb,
Sarah Boone invented the Ironing Board, and George T. Samon invented
the Clothes Dryer.



11. Finally, they were resigned to at least have dinner amidst all of
this turmoil. But here again, the food had spoiled because another
Black Man, John Standard invented the refrigerator..



Now, isn't that something? What would this country be like without
the contributions of Blacks, as African-Americans?



Martin Luther King, Jr. said, 'by the time we leave for work,
millions of Americans have depended on the inventions from the minds
of Blacks.'



Black history includes more than just slavery, Frederick Douglass,
Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, and Marcus Garvey & W.E.B.
Dubois.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Happy Valentine for you!



A friend sent an early "Valentine" to see if it will make it around the world by Feb. 14th.

For God so lo
Ved the world,
That He g
Ave
his on
Ly
BegottEn
So
N
T
hat whosoever
Believeth
In Him
Should Not perish,
But have
Everlasting life."
John 3:16

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

WOMEN WHO KNOW THEIR PLACE

(email I received today... :)

WOMEN WHO KNOW THEIR PLACE

Barbara Walters, of 20/20, did a story on gender roles in Kabul , Afghanistan several years before the Afghan conflict. She noted that women customarily walked five paces behind their husbands.. She recently returned to Kabul and observed that women still walk behind their husbands. Despite the overthrow of the oppressive Taliban regime, the women now seem to, and are happy to, maintain the old custom.

Ms. Walters approached one of the Afghani women and asked, 'Why do you now seem happy with an old custom that you once tried so desperately to change?'

The woman looked Ms. Walters straight in the eyes, and without hesitation said, 'Land Mines.'

Moral of the story is (no matter what language you speak or where you go): Behind every Man is a Smart Woman!

What??? Miss J Kicked to the Curb?

Miss J Kicked to the Curb?

The king of the catwalk and 'Top Model' judge won't be returning next season. Don't worry, his replacement comes with his own larger-than-life personality. Who's Filling Jay's High Heels
(Photo: Getty)

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http://www.bvnewswire.com/2010/02/09/tyra-banks-miss-j-andre-leon-talley-americas-next-top-model/

Before Lady Gaga there was Grace Jones

http://conversations.blackvoices.com/entertainment/99435682aaea4564b24369ed6fc90973/grace-jones/9f06939c669e4481be4e3ba22fa0d584

Gaga's Muse?

Before Lady Gaga there was Grace Jones. Relive the queen of shock entertainment's most daring fashion statements. Join the Conversation
(Photo: WireImage/Getty)

Monday, February 08, 2010

The Economy

(email I received today)

I got a pre-declined credit card in the mail.

I ordered a burger at McDonald's and the kid behind the counter asked, "Can you afford fries with that?"

CEO's are now playing miniature golf.

If the bank returns your check marked "Insufficient Funds," you call them and ask if they meant you or them .

Hot Wheels and Matchbox stocks are trading higher than GM.

McDonald's is selling the 1/4 ouncer .

Parents in Beverly Hills are firing their nannies and having to learn their children's names.

A truckload of Americans was caught sneaking into Mexico.

Dick Cheney took his stockbroker hunting.

Motel Six won't leave the light on anymore.

The Mafia is laying off judges.

Congress says they are looking into this Bernard Madoff scandal. Oh Great!! The guy who made $50 Billion disappear, is being investigated by the people who made $1.5 Trillion disappear!


--
"As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there
to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." -
Marian Anderson

Monday, February 01, 2010

Apostle Paul in a tiny little chuch in Mykonos, Greece

It makes so much sense to me, to visit the Mediterranean region of the world, and see such paintings as is shown below. It also makes me wonder why this kind of history is changed to show the Jesus, apostles and many others who would most likely be people of darker skin, as white people. Many folks say it doesn't matter... but the fact is, it does... a lot! It feeds in a very indidious way, a sense of superiority that is skewed by corrupting history. I can only hope that more truths are exposed and our learning be corrected.. because 'the truth can set us free'!
(Thank Chance for suggesting that I post this picture in the name of Black History Month)
There's this little, tiny church as soon as the Tender dropped us off at the dock. The ship is too big to pull in, so we had to ride a Tender, to shore. In the church were paintings and this one was of St. Paul, the apostle.

Who's in charge?

WHY AN ASSHOLE IS ALWAYS IN CHARGE:
Tiny Tim Geithner is the Wrong Choice for Treasury Secretary

By Greg Palast

John Thain is the guy that looks like a Clark Kent doll you saw grinning from page one of your paper Friday morning. Thain was just fired by Bank of America because the square-jawed executive demanded a $30 million bonus after losing $5 billion in just three months at the bank's Merrill Lynch unit. In addition, Thain spent over a million dollars redecorating his office while, at the same time, the U.S. Treasury was bailing out his company with billions in aid. Thain's office re-do included the installation of a $35,000 toilet bowl.

Thain was robbed. He shouldn't have been fired; he should have gotten a $60 million bonus -- and Obama should immediately hire him as Secretary of the Treasury in place of that tax-dodging lightweight that's been nominated, Timothy Geithner.

Here's the facts, ma'am.

Thain was CEO of Merrill Lynch, the big brokerage firm. On a good day, Merrill is worth zero. A week before it was about to go out of business, Thain sold this busted bag of financial feces to Bank of America for $50 BILLION.

I'd say that's worth a bonus.

But it gets better. When the bag broke and another $5 billion in losses were discovered at Merrill, Thain went to the U.S. Treasury and got ANOTHER $20 BILLION to cover Bank of America's bad financial bet -- from us, the taxpayers.

Now that certainly deserves a bonus. And let's face it, a butthole that big needs a $35,000 toilet.

Instead, the guy that paid the $50 billion, Bank of America Chairman Kenneth Lewis, is keeping his job. Lewis is the same guy that just spent billions more on buying Countrywide Financial, the sub-prime mortgage loan sharks that have brought America to its knees and put Bank of America into effective bankruptcy. (Note to Mr. Lewis: the only thing worse than getting cancer is PAYING for it.)

But dumber than Lewis is the loser who OK'd paying Bank of America for its losses on Merrill, who traded a pile of turds for a stack of gold -- our gold from the U.S. Treasury. That was Tim Geithner, Obama's pick for Treasury Secretary, who's now answering questions at Senate confirmation hearings about his funky tax filings.

Tiny Tim was head of the New York Federal Reserve Bank during the Bush regime. Along with Bush's Secretary of the Treasury, Geithner came up with that $700 billion bail-out that loaded banks with loot on their way to insolvency. Bank of America got $25 billion of it to spend on Thain's company Merrill. That was before the extra $20 billion was weedled by Thain.

So why, President Obama, have you given us Tiny Tim to save our sorry nation's economic behind? What's with that?

In another life I was an economist. Really. So here's the economic facts of life: Our valiant young president is going to have to borrow a trillion dollars to bring our economy back from the grave. He's got to borrow it, no choice about that. But who in their right minds will lend it to us? I can tell you the number one job of a new Treasury Secretary will be to con Saudi sheiks and Chinese apparatchiks into lending us another trillion (they've already lent $2 trillion).

Who in the world can talk them into it?

The answer came to me after I went this afternoon to see my proctologist, a brilliant doctor with one eye and really long fingers. (OK, I made that up.) The good doctor told me that hoary old joke about the heart and brain and rectum getting into a fight about which one was more important. When the higher organs made fun of the butt-end, the rectum went on strike. After a month, the brain and heart couldn't take it any more -- the whole body was about to explode. So they told the rectum, 'You win.' And the rectum said, Now you know why an asshole's always in charge.

There's our answer. Instead of an easily duped, incompetent weasel like Geithner for Secretary of the Treasury, what we really need is a lying bucket of evil snot, a flaming red take-no-prisoners asshole. A guy like Thain that can sell a piece of crap like Merrill for billions -- twice -- is just what we need to shake down the sheiks. "America for Sale! Cheap!"

And Thain comes with his own gold-plated toilet.

[Greg Palast is the co-author of Steal Back Your Vote, a comic book co-authored with Robert F. Kennedy Jr. Watch Palast's investigative reports on BBC Television's Newsnight and in Rolling Stone Magazine. For more info go to GregPalast.com]

http://shadowpress.org/asshole_in_charge.54.htm